My arms are empty and acheing...

I can’t believe I’m a mother without…

Life has been twisted and turned upside down. As a mother, I had both the wonderful privilege of holding my sweet son as I brought him into this world…and the horrible chore of holding him as he took his last breaths and left this world, at only 7 years old. June 24, 2010 he earned his angel wings, passing away after an inspiring but brief fight against Cystic Fibrosis. Now I live, solely focusing on living a life to get to be with him again in heaven, and to raise awareness for Cystic Fibrosis research. I am dedicated to a cure, not only for my sweet sons legacy but so that other CF families never experience the greatest loss of their lives that we are now facing. My mother’s arms are missing Connerman, yet he still inspires me daily to leave a mark of LOVE on this world…so for you my sweet prince, mommy will try!

Love Love Love

Always Always Always

Thursday, August 4, 2011

a simple little toothbrush…

What in the world is the big deal?????

Why today of all days to notice something that I hadn’t noticed before…or maybe I have, I can’t recall…



5 toothbrushes remain in our holder….

today it just got to me.

there’s only 4 living in this home.

one is no longer present.

but his toothbrush is.

I’m getting one child back to school clothes to go to elementary school…

there’s supposed to be two going to elementary together…

but there’s only one.

none of this gets much easier.

time definitely doesn’t, couldn’t possibly heal all wounds.

the pain remains.

a dull, nagging…that’s always there kind of pain.

not much else really matters sometimes.

but for some reason today while I was getting ready in the bathroom…he flooded my mind. and the tears came.

over a dumb toothbrush.

well not the toothbrush itself but what it represented…or lack there of I guess.

I’m tired of visiting a cemetary just to try to make sense of why I can’t see him anymore. I know he’s not there…but it’s all I have. it’s the last place I left him. I hate it. I hate when it rains and I feel the need to shelter his stone from the cold. why? I hate that sometimes I have nightmares of how his body looks now. it’s horrible. I hate that I feel like this. the more I read though, the more I realize how not alone I am in this. there are many moms and dads struggling to cope with the worst loss imaginable. I just hate sometimes just how much I miss him. the pain of it can be crippling.

the constant thoughts.

mind wandering.



then some joy.

some smiles.

some really good days.



the sadness.

the pain.

the numbness.

the headache and pounding of an anxious heart.

I hate hearing Hunters sadness over losing his best friend. “why did he have to die?” how scary for a very imaginative 5 year old boy. he knows his brothers gone…so now he won’t barely let us leave his sight, he’s scared to death that he could wake up again just like last June, only this time myself or Brad will be gone. he’s only 5. he suffers so…



Last week I had to get a photo of Conner for a friend to her. I was so devestated how far back in my pictures I had to go to get one of him. He’s not taking any new pictures. he’s gone. I have files and files of “family” photo’s, only he’s not in them.

they’re incomplete.
Hunter and Bradyn are growing up. and he never will. with us.

There sweet faces make me so thankful to have them here with me. and you can only imagine how much we love on them. I think they’re the most well loved kids I’ve ever met. because we know just how tomorrow could turn out. no guarantees. so we smother our kids with kindness, time and love. hugs and kisses. tickle tortures and dancing. pb&j for breakfast…and sometimes even lunch and dinner. we run thru the sprinkler together, sidewalk chalk together, ride bikes, read books, play at the park, go to the library and even plant in Conner’s garden together. almost always holding hands and always kisses…I’m lucky to have them.



who would’ve thought…a simple, stupid toothbrush could hold so many memories…

I miss him so much.

love love love



1 comment:

  1. I am so sorry for your loss, what you and your family are and have been going through just breaks my heart to pieces. I'm praying for peace and healing for your family.

    I don't want it to seem like I'm taking any of this lightly as I've cried over your posts, but I do want to share that iodine has the potential to cure CF, iodine breaks down mucous and is anti-viral, anti-bacterial, etc. You should research iodines use for that, know ahead of time that you won't get any support from doctors though you'll have to go on your own journey of healing to see it working ( my family has but for less serious ailments). Also if you've never heard about homeopathy you need to look into that as well, most times homeopathy can have a rather instant healing and is much longer lasting to a point that you are cured and no longer need it. Which by the way is very inexpensive. You should find a reputable homeopath near you and seek a remedy. For other things, like cold, flu, asthma, headaches, tummy aches, back ache, things of that sort you can find the remedies for yourself. We started with Hyland's remedy chest kit for $100 with 30 different remedies and a book on how to use which lasts a year at least and is a good way to introduce yourself to a better easier way of healing.

    I am praying for your family and if you'd like to talk, about the homeopathics, or loss, or anything, I'm here.


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