My heart is broken and the tears are a flowing…so much to explain…
Life I think we all can agree is so much better after high school.
the drama of it all.
the he said/she said.
the back stabbing…
the two faceness…
the constant fighting, argueing…betrayal…belitteling…
I don’t know about YOU…but I’m so glad to be done with High school.
But are YOU…?
We move from the ugliness and constant peer scrutiny of High school to the self scrutiny of motherhood or adulthood.
As moms we are so hyper critical of ourselves.
we see what people appear to be on the outside and assume they have it all together.
that we can never measure up.
that we’re bad parents…bad moms.
giving our child too much tv time…or too many snacks…on and on AND ON AND ON…
My post the other day was about looking beyond the ordinary things we consider blessings and searching beneath that…deep down into the HARD stuff to find our TRUE BLESSINGS. I would never see CF the disease as a blessing…BUT I DO see how it blesses our lives. It connects 30,000 of us in ways that the other billion people in the world can’t truly relate to. Being BLESSED with disease causes us to FIGHT for each medication, every doctor appointment, each lung infection, each and every breath. It BLESSES us to reach beyond the US we thought we were…all the stronger we THOUGHT we could be and dig deeper to find infact that WE ARE STRONGER than even we knew. That God designed us for GREATNESS beyond what anyone can ever imagine. We just have to see the BLESSINGS in the ugly wrapper…
Beyond the disease and back to being a mom in the first place.
it’s hard work.
it’s always second guessing, the woulda, coulda, shoulda’s…we beat ourselves up every day over things we shoulda done differently. We see other mama’s and SWEAR they’re so much better than us. but it’s not true.
IT’S A HUGE LIE!!!!
We need to be ok with being a mom the way WE know how to. We ALL do the VERY BEST with whats been given to us and we need to stop critisizing. We need to stop comparing. we need to stop believing ourselves as failures. we need to stop LISTENING to other moms put us down because they too are insecure and unsure of themselves also. we ALL ARE.
We need to let people voice their worries and concerns free of JUDGEMENT.
See just cus we have the common thread of cf DOESN’T mean we all have to be friends. That’s like saying that I’m Polish, therefore I am friends with all Pollocks…(and yes I am a pollock so I can say that!!!)
We need to understand just how different we all are.
my mom and dad were not your mom and dad.
my parents divorce is not the same as your parents divorce.
the way I was disciplined was not the way you were.
the foods my parents gave me, yours gave you different…
on and on..
so you could never truly get what makes me tick…nor I, you…
Each and EVERY experience we have uniquely growing up leads us to the PEOPLE we are and become. So no two people can ever be the same. So NOBODY WILL EVER UNDERSTAND ANY TEENY BIT OF YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU DO…your worries, your sadness, your joy, your pain…because NOBODY GREW UP EXACTLY THE SAME AS YOU DID….
When people post on facebook or blogs out of fear, worry, joy, sadness, concern any of it…it is just that.
one persons exact emotions and feelings brought out in that exact emotion stemming from ALL THINGS that occurred in their life up to that point.
it is unique and it is their truth.
It doesn’t mean it’s your truth.
but that’s great!!!
cus your truth will never be my truth either.
Freedom of speech, freedom of feelings, freedom of worry and love and concern…is not ours to take away from someone, whether or not it is commented upon “lovingly” or not. it is what it is..and it’s EVERYTHING to the one who shares it. because it’s EVERYTHING TO THEM…
Please ladies and gentlemen…PLEASE…
can we please take a HUGE step from high school and a HUGE STEP towards adulthood and maturity.
and realize that just because what someone says may come across as harsh or confusing to us doesn’t make it ONE BIT less true for that person.
Specifically I bring this up is because of Kayla. No further details needed there. But…here’s something to think about…
are you friending people on FB because you both have connections to CF…are you friending people so you can help build them back up because in this FIGHT there are times when we all need words of LOVE and encouragement???
are you friending people just cus of cf? Because if so…that’s not a good enough reason.
God calls us to be like HIM.
Loving, empathetic, supportive, faithful, prayerful, graceful, and most of all KIND. Because if your “friending” people just so you always know whats going on in someones world then truly that’s just being nosy and not genuine. There are SO MANY mama’s right now watching their babies slowly suffer and slowly die. And I know that pain very well friends. I tell you what…that is a time when we as people of GOD need to step in not just cus of cf and truly BE THERE TO LOVE AND SUPPORT those women. Life is all about love and relationships. I can’t imagine going thru all of this now without genuine friendships and people with genuine love for me and my family. and goodness it just brings me to tears to see the negativity that swells out there in FB land.
If your not part of the solution my friends, then your part of the problem…
Love on people.
Build them up and stop tearing them down.
the world isn’t going to spin off it’s axis if you were to die tomorrow, myself included in that…so why can’t we see that this life is NOT ABOUT US? it’s about reaching out and being there for OTHERS?
Love and Grace and Peace
I hope this touches your heart in some small way…cus it KILLS mine to see this tearing down of others…it needs to stop
Love Love Love
in Conners name LOVE people…everything else is meaningless